the mothering
FOR THE WOMAN BEHIND ‘MUM’Modern motherhood asked you to become a lot of things.
This is where you decide what stays.
A six-month small group for the person who existed before she was somebody's mum — and is ready to meet her again.
HOW IT STARTEDEarlier this year, I went looking for something.
Not a mums group. Not a personal development course. Not a circle where everyone cries and someone burns sage.
I wanted to find women who loved their kids and their lives but were also interesting people in their own right who wanted to talk about actual things. Women who were done with the baby years but hadn't quite figured out what came next. Who wanted to go deep but could also be completely unhinged in the same conversation.
I couldn't find it. So I built it. That's how The Mothering began.
WHAT IT ISIt's not a course. Nobody's teaching you how to be a better mum.
We're not talking about your kids except when we are, which is sometimes, because they're our lives - but it's not the point. The point is you.
We spend six months doing the kind of reflection and work that actually changes something. Figuring out what you want. What you're carrying that was never yours. Who you are now. Who you're becoming. The patterns you inherited and whether you want to keep them.
What you'd want your kids to say about you at your 70th birthday - not about what you did for them, about what it felt like to be loved by you.
We get to the heart of it. What kind of woman do you want to be, inside your family and outside of it -and what's actually in the way?
THE ARCEach month has a theme.
MONTH ONERemember
We start by asking who you were before motherhood swallowed you whole. Not to go back. Just to remember she's still in there.
MONTH TWOReclaim
The things you used to love that got quietly shelved. Your interests, your friendships, the parts of yourself you let die or just hadn't let out of their cage in a while. We go looking for them.
MONTH THREERelease
What you're carrying that was never yours to carry. The mental load, the invisible labour, the low-grade resentment that's been running in the background. We put some of it down.
MONTH FOURRest
When did rest become something you have to earn? We look at why mothers are the most exhausted people in the room and also the worst at actually resting - and what it means to rest in a way that genuinely restores you.
MONTH FIVERewrite
The script you inherited for what a good mother looks like. Where it came from. What you're keeping and what you're not. You pick up the pen.
MONTH SIXRise
After five months of work, this is where it lands. Who did you become? We witness that, we celebrate it, and we close in a way that does it justice.
A 90-minute session - we check in, we journal, we discuss. Sometimes hard things come up and we hold them. Then someone says something and the energy shifts completely and we're all laughing again. Both things matter.
No one slips through the cracks. We know who's in the middle of a hard school situation, who's solo parenting this week, who's still in the sleepless nights. We ask. We notice when someone's gone quiet. It's a small group - you're not anonymous in here.
Twice a month we do the actual work.
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The Deep Work
Fortnightly, alternating between Wednesday morning and Thursday midday so the same women aren't always the ones who can't make it. Recorded.
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Coffee Catch Up
Mornings, in the off weeks. No agenda, just a bunch of mums catching up.
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Book Club
Evenings. Fiction only - no self-help, no parenting books, nothing that feels like homework. (Except Jules, who reads a hundred books a year and finds our pace charmingly relaxed.)
All Day
The Whats App
The chat that becomes the first place you go when something happens - good, bad, or completely unhinged. The chat you send the mindless, funny reels to without any context. The one that’s still going long after the group ends.
Come to what you can.
Nobody makes every session - you have kids. Everything is recorded, so you can work through it in your own time and still be right there with us.
I honestly didn't know what this would become.
The first group came together in February. By May they were turning up on each other's doorsteps with food and when someone had a rough month. Nobody asked them to.
Women who were strangers in February were organising catch ups without me. Showing up for each other in the way that only really happens when you've done actual work together and you actually know each other.
Someone says something in a session and you think - oh, that's mine too. You didn't know you needed to hear it until someone else said it first. That's what happens when the group is small enough that nobody disappears into the background.
Then it's Thursday night and there's wine and a book and nobody mentions their children once.
That's the balance I was looking for. Turns out it actually exists..
“More intimate than a standard mothers' group, and without the woo-woo of a women's circle. It creates pause for reflection on the parts of matrescence you're desperate to talk about, but don't necessarily have the community for.”
— FELICITY, FOUNDERS GROUP
AT THE END OF THE SIX MONTHSThe Gathering
A weekend together, in person. We call it The Gathering because retreat felt like the wrong word - there's no yoga, no early morning bush walks, no silence practices (we’d fail at it if we tried).
There's good coffee and a fireplace and a long table and heaps of food and wine and staying up too late talking. And finally getting to hug the women you've been on screen with for six months.
By the time we get there, six months of deep work and funny reels means walking in already feels like coming home.
The Gathering is an optional add-on at the end of the program - costs are split between those who choose to attend and kept as reasonable as we can make them.
Details are confirmed with each cohort.
This is for you ifYou're out of the early years and ready to actually invest in yourself — not just survive.
You miss having women in your life you can talk to about real things.
There's a part of you that got shelved somewhere in the last few years and you're ready to find her again.
You want to do meaningful work and also just have a really good time while you do it.
IT'S PROBABLY NOT FOR YOU IFWhat you're really after is parenting strategies, a fix for something with your child, or therapy. Worth having, all of it — and I can point you to the right room for each.
This is a different thing: the space to find your way back to yourself while you're still in the thick of it.
WHO’S HOLDING THE ROOMI’m Fi.
I'm Fi — social worker, mother, and someone who spent years doing this work inside systems that wanted outcomes tracked and KPIs hit.
What I knew the whole time, and couldn't always act on, was that the magic was never in the intervention. It was in the relationship. In sitting with someone long enough for the real stuff to come up. In the conversation that happens when you stop performing the session and just actually talk to each other.
So I stopped waiting for permission to do it that way.
My work draws from attachment theory, developmental psychology, nervous system and matrescence — the understanding that becoming a mother is one of the most significant shifts a person goes through. None of that shows up in The Mothering as a lecture. It shows up in how I hold the space and how I know what a session needs.
I live on the Mid-North Coast of NSW with my husband and 3 beautiful kiddos.
THE INVESTMENTSix months, two ways to pay.
MONTHLY
$290
/month
For six months. Spread it out, start now.
PAY IN FULL
$1600
Save $140. One payment, done.
Both options include 12 months inside Coming Home, the Mama Matters community — so the connection doesn't have to stop when the program does.
Questions people ask
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September 2026. There's a soft start in August — the WhatsApp group goes live and we have a couple of casual coffee chats — so you're already connected before the first session begins.
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Deep Sessions are Wednesday mornings at 10am AEST. Creative Sessions are Thursday afternoons at 1pm AEST. Coffee Catch Up is Tuesday mornings at 10am AEST. Book Club is Thursday evenings at 7:30pm AEST. Coffee Catch Up and Book Club aren't recorded. Everything else is.
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You won't! You have small children. Recordings are always available and the WhatsApp group keeps you in it between sessions. Come to what you can.
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Around twelve. The intimacy only works at this size.
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No — and it's worth being honest about that. The Mothering is a facilitated reflective group experience. Sometimes things come up that deserve more than this space can hold. If that happens I'll name it and point you somewhere. But this isn't therapy and it's not a replacement for it.
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Yes, though let's have a conversation first. Some women make it work beautifully. Others find it lands better when their baby is a little older. Email me and we'll figure it out.
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No. Women in the current cohort have between one and three kids. What they share is that they're past the all-consuming early stage and ready to think about themselves again.
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The monthly option exists for exactly this reason — $290 a month is a smaller commitment than $1,600 all at once. If timing is genuinely the issue, reach out. I'd rather have a conversation than have the right person talk herself out of it.
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If you've read this far and something in you is leaning in, that's worth paying attention to.
I am not here for the hard sell — just a gentle invitation to listen to that part of you wanting more.